Comments on: Putting a pet to sleep http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep Living Large with Children! Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:18:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 By: Marcia http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2890 Marcia Fri, 14 Sep 2007 18:39:10 +0000 http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2890 Brian, I feel for you and your wife. We are 10 days out from your same situation, and I have cried each day. However, we have had some smiles amongst the tears the last few days. While we miss Softy terribly, we feel sure he knew he was loved and that we only wanted what was best for him. I hope you and your wife can feel the same way as you mourn the life of something(one) who was so very important to you. Take care. Brian, I feel for you and your wife. We are 10 days out from your same situation, and I have cried each day. However, we have had some smiles amongst the tears the last few days. While we miss Softy terribly, we feel sure he knew he was loved and that we only wanted what was best for him. I hope you and your wife can feel the same way as you mourn the life of something(one) who was so very important to you. Take care.

]]> By: Brian http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2877 Brian Tue, 11 Sep 2007 15:23:33 +0000 http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2877 This afternoon, my wife and I are bringing our 13 year old cat to the Vet to be put to sleep. They say you do not select your cat, they select you, and 13 years ago we opened the front door and found this tiny kitten curled up on our door mat. One week earlier we put my chilldhood cat to sleep who had developed cancer. We are convinced it was my cats second life. I think as you get older, these losses are more difficult to take, I know this one is. This afternoon, my wife and I are bringing our 13 year old cat to the Vet to be put to sleep. They say you do not select your cat, they select you, and 13 years ago we opened the front door and found this tiny kitten curled up on our door mat. One week earlier we put my chilldhood cat to sleep who had developed cancer. We are convinced it was my cats second life. I think as you get older, these losses are more difficult to take, I know this one is.

]]> By: Marcia http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2861 Marcia Wed, 05 Sep 2007 16:52:50 +0000 http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2861 Thanks from the bottom of my heart for corresponding with me and helping me through this journey with my sweet Softy. His journey, with us, was completed last night. I held him on the trip to the vet's and he put his little head on my arm with a resignation that somehow he knew this was the end. I am completely devastated. He will be cremated and his ashes returned to us. We will bury him in our yard by the woods that he loved. His brother, Snowy, seems quite confused, and I feel so for him. My true bond was always with Softy so maybe now Snowy will get some well deserved attention, but it will never be the same. I pray that Softy will have his 9 lives. He so deserved the best, he was and always will be so loved. God bless you for your understanding, and I hope your grief for your Izzy turns to more smiles than tears soon. Marcia Thanks from the bottom of my heart for corresponding with me and helping me through this journey with my sweet Softy. His journey, with us, was completed last night. I held him on the trip to the vet’s and he put his little head on my arm with a resignation that somehow he knew this was the end. I am completely devastated.
He will be cremated and his ashes returned to us. We will bury him in our yard by the woods that he loved. His brother, Snowy, seems quite confused, and I feel so for him. My true bond was always with Softy so maybe now Snowy will get some well deserved attention, but it will never be the same.
I pray that Softy will have his 9 lives. He so deserved the best, he was and always will be so loved.
God bless you for your understanding, and I hope your grief for your Izzy turns to more smiles than tears soon.
Marcia

]]> By: Bug n' Belle http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2856 Bug n' Belle Wed, 05 Sep 2007 03:27:48 +0000 http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2856 I'm sure by this time you have completed your jouirney with Softy. I hope you are at peace and able to accept it. I was so upset the day Izzy passed, but I knew it was the right thing to do and she was suffering and while I still miss her and look at the sliding glass door expecting to see her, I know we made the right decision. We don't have any other pets. I have 3 small children. My youngest, Evan is 2 1/2 and loved "kitty, kitty." He still asks me every day "where kitty, kitty go?" Last spring when the other two were in preschool I'd frequently find him in our very safe, fenced in back yard, cuddling with Izzy under the play structure. He'd have his head on her belly (she was a BIG 15 lbs cat in her hey day) and he'd just be talking to her and she loved it. There were several times I found him almost alseep out there sleeping with kitty. They had a very deep bond and he does miss her. We were at a friend's house and saw their kitty and was quite shocked when she didn't take to him like Izzy did. His daily "chore" was to feed Izzy and he'd get very mad if I did it for him. Like our vet said they get under our skin, but god gives them to us for a reason. Izzy was a blessing in my life foremost, she was my first baby, and the kids and dh loved her too. We will have another pet again some day, just not ready yet. ((((big hugs)))) Hang in there! Tanya I’m sure by this time you have completed your jouirney with Softy. I hope you are at peace and able to accept it. I was so upset the day Izzy passed, but I knew it was the right thing to do and she was suffering and while I still miss her and look at the sliding glass door expecting to see her, I know we made the right decision.

We don’t have any other pets. I have 3 small children. My youngest, Evan is 2 1/2 and loved “kitty, kitty.” He still asks me every day “where kitty, kitty go?” Last spring when the other two were in preschool I’d frequently find him in our very safe, fenced in back yard, cuddling with Izzy under the play structure. He’d have his head on her belly (she was a BIG 15 lbs cat in her hey day) and he’d just be talking to her and she loved it. There were several times I found him almost alseep out there sleeping with kitty. They had a very deep bond and he does miss her. We were at a friend’s house and saw their kitty and was quite shocked when she didn’t take to him like Izzy did. His daily “chore” was to feed Izzy and he’d get very mad if I did it for him.

Like our vet said they get under our skin, but god gives them to us for a reason. Izzy was a blessing in my life foremost, she was my first baby, and the kids and dh loved her too. We will have another pet again some day, just not ready yet.

((((big hugs))))

Hang in there!

Tanya

]]> By: Marcia http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2852 Marcia Tue, 04 Sep 2007 16:26:48 +0000 http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2852 I cannot thank you enough for your reply. We had a good week-end with our beloved Softy. He ate well, and we spent so much time hugging and kissing him and taking his picture. This was the only time I felt sneaking him his very favorite food, tuna, wasn't a crime. As it was, we were instructed to mix in a 1/4 of a 10mg. capsule of Pepcide for any stomach discomfort. After incredible soul searching, we will take him tonight at 7:00 to be put to sleep. The vet said it is the right thing to do, and it is only a matter of time before we would be faced with this decision again, if not today. She said how lucky we were to have some good, last days, but that they were temporary for Softy. He has been feeling poorly for some time, and the vet described it as Softy feels like he has the flu most of the time. I am trying so hard emotionally to do what is right by this dear creature who has seen me through some very bad days in the past. I do not want him to suffer just because I need him around. I am going to hold Softy on the way to the vet's while my husband drives us. I will make the decision when we get there to go in or say good-bye in the car and let my husband take him in. My husband is trying so hard to help me through this. He does not want me to go in for the procedure! I don't want Softy to feel my distress, yet I hate to let him down in the end. So many people who know us have shared their own pet's final moments. I am really torn by the advice pro and con to be in the exam room. I know I will have regrets either way. Do you have other pets who are grieving not having Izzy around? How are you doing almost a month later? Softy's brother, Snowy,will be left behind and I wonder about how he will cope. Most probably better than I am. Thanks more than I can say for your support and kind words. I cannot thank you enough for your reply. We had a good week-end with our beloved Softy. He ate well, and we spent so much time hugging and kissing him and taking his picture. This was the only time I felt sneaking him his very favorite food, tuna, wasn’t a crime. As it was, we were instructed to mix in a 1/4 of a 10mg. capsule of Pepcide for any stomach discomfort. After incredible soul searching, we will take him tonight at 7:00 to be put to sleep. The vet said it is the right thing to do, and it is only a matter of time before we would be faced with this decision again, if not today. She said how lucky we were to have some good, last days, but that they were temporary for Softy. He has been feeling poorly for some time, and the vet described it as Softy feels like he has the flu most of the time. I am trying so hard emotionally to do what is right by this dear creature who has seen me through some very bad days in the past. I do not want him to suffer just because I need him around. I am going to hold Softy on the way to the vet’s while my husband drives us. I will make the decision when we get there to go in or say good-bye in the car and let my husband take him in. My husband is trying so hard to help me through this. He does not want me to go in for the procedure! I don’t want Softy to feel my distress, yet I hate to let him down in the end. So many people who know us have shared their own pet’s final moments. I am really torn by the advice pro and con to be in the exam room. I know I will have regrets either way.
Do you have other pets who are grieving not having Izzy around? How are you doing almost a month later? Softy’s brother, Snowy,will be left behind and I wonder about how he will cope. Most probably better than I am.
Thanks more than I can say for your support and kind words.

]]> By: Bug n' Belle http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2847 Bug n' Belle Mon, 03 Sep 2007 16:02:16 +0000 http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2847 My advice would be to take your cat in along with your husband. It was important to me to be there and have the last memory be of her passing, not of me just dropping her off at the vet. The vet's office knew we were coming and why and they got us in very quickly. The vet had the kindest words for us. He explained what would happen and then just as he was giving the shot he said "god bless you Izzy." Which was very sweet and he had the kindest words to say to us when all was done. One thing that really touched me is that he said "these animals get under our skin and god gives them to us for a reason, and part of having them is that in the end we do have to put them down. We will almost always outlive our pets." I still miss Izzy, I find myself looking at the sliding glass door still expecting to see her. But I fell very complete in that I was with her until the end, I got to say my goodbyes, I was there to console her. And it was not traumatic, it was very peaceful, and it left me at peace. Big Hugs... it isn't easy to put down these animals we love. But we don't want them to suffer either. Tanya My advice would be to take your cat in along with your husband. It was important to me to be there and have the last memory be of her passing, not of me just dropping her off at the vet.

The vet’s office knew we were coming and why and they got us in very quickly. The vet had the kindest words for us. He explained what would happen and then just as he was giving the shot he said “god bless you Izzy.” Which was very sweet and he had the kindest words to say to us when all was done.

One thing that really touched me is that he said “these animals get under our skin and god gives them to us for a reason, and part of having them is that in the end we do have to put them down. We will almost always outlive our pets.”

I still miss Izzy, I find myself looking at the sliding glass door still expecting to see her. But I fell very complete in that I was with her until the end, I got to say my goodbyes, I was there to console her. And it was not traumatic, it was very peaceful, and it left me at peace.

Big Hugs… it isn’t easy to put down these animals we love. But we don’t want them to suffer either.

Tanya

]]> By: Marcia http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2846 Marcia Mon, 03 Sep 2007 15:30:07 +0000 http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2846 I am faced with the same situation today with our beloved cat, Softy. I am inconsolably grieved but for the fact that I do not want him to suffer from poor health. He is 14, has acute renal failure and just developed a tumor in his eye. We took him for treatment on Friday and he has seemed so much better the past 2 days. However, the vet has not given us a good prognosis for his longevity, and the cost is not one my husband feels we should undertake. Please tell me how you got through this. I cannot decide whether to take Softy myself or let my husband take him tomorrow to be put down. I first and foremost do not want the poor cat to feel my distress, He hates going to the vet as it is. Please help! I am faced with the same situation today with our beloved cat, Softy. I am inconsolably grieved but for the fact that I do not want him to suffer from poor health. He is 14, has acute renal failure and just developed a tumor in his eye. We took him for treatment on Friday and he has seemed so much better the past 2 days. However, the vet has not given us a good prognosis for his longevity, and the cost is not one my husband feels we should undertake. Please tell me how you got through this. I cannot decide whether to take Softy myself or let my husband take him tomorrow to be put down. I first and foremost do not want the poor cat to feel my distress, He hates going to the vet as it is. Please help!

]]> By: Lynn Sinclair http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2802 Lynn Sinclair Fri, 17 Aug 2007 13:27:49 +0000 http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2802 I'm so sorry to hear about your cat, Izzy. My cat had feline diabetes for many years. In 2006, I had to put her down because her kidneys failed. Like you, we stayed with her until she closed her eyes for the last time. It was heartbreaking. I’m so sorry to hear about your cat, Izzy. My cat had feline diabetes for many years. In 2006, I had to put her down because her kidneys failed. Like you, we stayed with her until she closed her eyes for the last time. It was heartbreaking.

]]> By: Tanya http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2763 Tanya Tue, 07 Aug 2007 07:42:29 +0000 http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2763 Thank you Jennifer! It's so hard to put down your pet, she was my first baby too. I'm really glad I was there to hold her paw, it was important to me to see her to the end after all the times I cried in her fur growing up through my twenties. I keep looking at the sliding glass door to our patio expecting to see her, it will be strange in the morning to not see her or feed her or give her insulin. But I know she's at peace and in a happier place. It's just hard not to hurt about the loss. Tanya Thank you Jennifer! It’s so hard to put down your pet, she was my first baby too. I’m really glad I was there to hold her paw, it was important to me to see her to the end after all the times I cried in her fur growing up through my twenties.

I keep looking at the sliding glass door to our patio expecting to see her, it will be strange in the morning to not see her or feed her or give her insulin. But I know she’s at peace and in a happier place. It’s just hard not to hurt about the loss.

Tanya

]]> By: Jennifer http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2761 Jennifer Tue, 07 Aug 2007 00:58:24 +0000 http://bugnbelle.com/wp/fun-family/putting-a-pet-to-sleep#comment-2761 I am so sorry to hear about your kitty. I have two that are getting up there in the years... They're still in good health, but it saddens me to know they won't be around forever. They were our first kids! Anyway, my thoughts are with you. I know this is difficult. Been there! {{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}} I am so sorry to hear about your kitty. I have two that are getting up there in the years… They’re still in good health, but it saddens me to know they won’t be around forever. They were our first kids!

Anyway, my thoughts are with you. I know this is difficult. Been there! {{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}

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